if you want to experience what he meant
saying- 99; no family.
The disciples said to him,
Your brothers and your mother are standing outside.
He said to them,
Those here who do the will of my father are my brothers and my mother.
It is (only) they who will enter the kingdom of my father.
First of all, and once again, using the term the kingdom of my father, Jesus complies with
the idea his hearers hold in their mind on the relation between God and His kingdom,
making use of "expedient means" again. The nature of the kingdom Jesus had in mind
differed fundamentally from that which his public held.
[However, there is another possibility that comes to my mind, and that is
that in the past Jesus might have had a personal teacher for many years and who he
regarded so close to him that he considered him as his father. If such teacher
taught him the Way that cannot be spoken about he may, in honor of his teacher,
have spoken of the kingdom of my father.]
The fact that Jesus mentions his brothers
before his mother may indicate that his father Joseph had died, and that the brothers
now acted as head of the family (Quispel, 2004). So, Jesus kind of restores his family with
the kingdom the father as replacement for his biological father, and with the ones who
follow his teachings as his brothers and mother.
The saying may indicate that, if necessary, family ties should be broken in search for
the kingdom. Once it has been realized the value of family ties are considered from a
fundamentally different perspective. Such change does, by the way, not carry any value
judgment towards one’s family members – Jesus only stresses the importance
of making the right choice. There is no aphoristic reason for receiving the kingdom, not even
for family members of Jesus himself; one has to engage in action. On the other hand, we also find no
self-evident or proclaimed reason why non-Jews would a priori be excluded.
The saying should not be "explained" from the perspective that Jesus is founding a new,
family-like community around him, making obsolete traditional social constructions,
whereas only the new 'family members' are the ones that are 'inside', and even the real family members 'outside' the blessed community - remember: Jesus is not a divider in
social terms and a non-dualist in his thinking.
A seeker does not consider relationship with others,
not even with the ones very near,
more important than making the choice to seek.
Matthew 12:46; Mark 3:32.